Good Morning Everyone. I am dedicating this post to all of the hopeful singles out there who are in a relationship and who are hoping to someday get a ring.  This post is also dedicated to the hopeful singles out there who are still looking for their Mr. Right or (Mrs. Right).  I know that a lot of girls dream to be in a long term relationship, but let me tell you that the grass is not always greener.

I recently wrote a post on Dinks Finance titled “Should I Give My Boyfriend a Marriage Ultimatum?”  I love my boyfriend very much but for some time now we have been in a crossroad in our relationship and we are getting to the age when we have to decide to accept each other or make a decision to go our separate ways.  I am 31 years old, we have been together for 12 years, and we are still unmarried.  Marriage is not an option with my boyfriend.  I am not sure if I absolutely want to get married; but I think that I would at least like to have the option.

I hope you read my post about Marriage Ultimatums.  The thing that really interests me about this particular post is the comments that readers are leaving and the stories that they are sharing.  It is sort of comforting to know that so many other people have been in my current situation. It is also kind of interesting to see that so many people have so many different opinions on relationships, how they should be, and what qualities make a perfect relationship. It’s great to have a relationship that is full of love, trust, and commitment, but at the end of the day if we don’t share the same goals and if we don’t want the same things out of life is the relationship really worth it?

If I were to start over again in a new relationship I would definitely do some things differently.  I would definitely want to know up front how my future boyfriend feels about marriage, children, travel, and relocation; then I can decide if he has the potential to be a future husband.

What criteria are you looking for in a future husband or wife?

Love Always,

Photo by Peter Bellis